The Top 12 Signs Why You’ll Never Find True Love

By Last Updated: October 23rd, 2023Categories: Relationship Counseling

“It’s so easy to fall in love but hard to find someone who will catch you.”

This quote sounds a bit harsh but it’s true. Finding love for some people is like navigating using a broken compass, you don’t know where to go or where to start. Even if you think you know where to find your one true love, things just don’t work out the way you expect them to be.

And you sometimes ask, why? Why can’t you easily find love like other people? Well, maybe, it’s because of certain things in your life that block the love bug away, what we do and think can be the reason why we can’t reach our goals.

But hey, even the most impossible things are possible if you have a strong will. On this page, we listed a few things why you can’t seem to find your soulmate and how you can turn things to your favor.

You Need to Understand This: What is Love

Before anything else, let’s define love.

Love is magical. But it’s not fireworks, slow motions, and hearts, save those stuff for the movies. It’s something much deeper and it’s different for every person. But there is one thing to describe love – love is sacrifice.

Why? Well, let’s discuss some examples. Parents love their children, and they will do everything for them. They will work hard, shed tears, and bleed just to earn money to provide for their kids. They sacrifice their own comfort and life for their children. And that is one amazing love.

What is Love

Love is about setting aside things for yourself in order to help or make the other person feel better. You cannot love without sacrifice. For a relationship to last, a certain give and take should exist between the two parties.

Love is sacrifice. It is one thing in the world that is immeasurable.

If you’re looking for love, be ready to set some things aside. You have to open your heart to people, minimize your expectations, and most of all, be your true self.

Signs You Will Never Find Love

Let’s get started in knowing the signs why you can’t find love. So go grab a coffee and let’s get started.

1. You Have Lots of Priorities

How can you find love if you don’t even have the time for it? One of the reasons why people can’t find their perfect match is because they are too busy prioritizing other things and love has no place on their calendars.

Well, there’s nothing wrong with dreaming about things you want or working hard to reach a goal. Ask yourself which one is more important, reaching a certain goal or finding someone to settle down with.

You Have Lots of Priorities

But finding love doesn’t mean that you have to abandon your dreams, you just need to sort them out, think things through, and see if you can give time for romance.

Life is short and you only live once. That is why you have to make the most out of it and live to the fullest. At the end of the day, it’s your life and this decision is up to you.

2. You Tend to Rush Things

Being impatient with things never ends well.

I know the saying “seize the moment” but it doesn’t always work on everything, especially in love. Love takes time and if you rush it, it may become a burden instead of being the source of happiness.

Remember to take one step at a time. First-date magic doesn’t apply to everyone. Get to know the person first, and find out common interests, see if his/her behavior fits yours. Just take it slow.

3. You Always Fall for the Wrong Person

In relation to #3, if you rush through things you might end up with the wrong person. And in some cases, even if you get to know the person better it still doesn’t end well.

You might be blinded by his/her pretty words and sweet gestures and you just hopelessly fall in love. And it turns out that their promises are all lies and end up getting broken.

Remember what Loretta Young said;

“Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you.”

The right person will come at the right time.

4. Your Standards are Way Too High

We all have standards when it comes to finding the right partner. But some have standards that are higher than Everest and are impossible to be reached by anyone. Well, this might be the reason why you’re still alone.

The tall, dark and handsome standard and the Barbie-like figures are not that realistic. Such characteristics can only be found in movie characters and to tell you the truth, people like that barely exist! Nobody is perfect and everyone has flaws, even you and me.

Your Standards are Way Too High

So you might want to lower the bar a bit. And trust me, if you have found one, your standards won’t matter.

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” -Tom Robbins

5. You’re Too Intimidating

On your quest to find a soulmate, being intimidating won’t help. There might be people who actually like you but they don’t try to take the first step because you look too assertive. They might be scared to approach you or that you might say something unpleasant about them.

You’re Too Intimidating

Try to relax and be more friendly, be carefree, smile more, and laugh gracefully. Be your happy self when you’re going out on dates. And remember to not brag about yourself and try to listen to your date. In short, just be approachable, trust me, it works like magic.

6. You Don’t Socialize

This one is for my fellow introverts out there. I know that going out and meeting people drains your social battery faster than the speed of light, and I get that. But if you’re one who’s looking for love, try your best to at least go out once in a while.

You Don’t Socialize

It will be impossible to find love if you just stay inside your room. The perfect person won’t fall in front of you. Go out, make some efforts, and meet people!

7. Your Past Relationship Still Affects You

Sometimes the very reason why you can’t find love is that you’re still afraid. Your past relationship might have left a big scar in your heart. And no matter how much you try to go out and meet people, committing to a relationship again is impossible.

8. Your LoveDar (Love Radar) is Broken

You might not notice but there is a chance that your one true love is just in the corner. Yep! There might be someone out there who’s admiring you but you are too dumb to notice.

You might be too busy looking for love in other places when the one who truly admires you is just right behind you. Love could strike when you least expect it.

9. You’re Living in Social Media Fantasies

Celebrities and influencers show off their perfect relationship on Social Media. Well, I’m here to tell you that those sweet posts are just for likes. Don’t try to incorporate the false fantasies they post in your life. A perfect relationship doesn’t exist, celebrity couples go through rough patches too and they just don’t post on the web.

If the reason you’re looking for a relationship is to show off to your followers, stop it now. You will end up hurting your partner and yourself.

Mark Twain, one of the greatest American authors once said;

“When you fish for love, bait with your heart, not your brain.”

Give up the fantasies and start living in the real world, Barbie’s Ken doesn’t exist.

10. You’re Too Quick to Catch Feelings

“You can’t marry a man you just met” – Queen Elsa of Arendelle

This statement may come from a fictional character but it is so true. If you’re one who falls in love so quickly, better change that attitude. You need to get to know the person better. What if your characters don’t match? What if his beliefs contradict yours?

You’re Too Quick to Catch Feelings

You might not be IN LOVE with that person, or you might just like the idea of him and the good sides that you see. Both of them might be hurt if things don’t turn out well.

11. You Don’t Think You’re Worthy of Love

Thinking negatively about yourself will be a hindrance if you are looking for love. This kind of mindset will not only ruin your chance of finding love but also the way you live your life.

Love starts from within, if you can’t love yourself it will be impossible for others to do the same.


  • You are worthy of love.
  • You are amazing.
  • Flaws are a part of you.
  • It’s okay to make mistakes.
  • Always be positive.

12. You’re Sailing on the Wrong Sea

Maybe the reason why you can’t find love is you’re looking at the wrong place or person. Maybe your heart has an opposite interest to your brain. Maybe you are pushing yourself to like a certain person but the truth is you’re just doing that because that is what the world is telling you.

you’re looking at the wrong place or person

Well, scrap that! Don’t let the world stop you from being happy. Follow your heart and love freely!


Our love stories are written differently. Just remember to take your time and be content with what you have. The right person will arrive at the perfect time.

Frequently Asked Questions

For a man, love is someone who stays no matter what. A person who accepts all his imperfections and will remain loyal no matter what.

Love evokes fond feelings and actions toward the other person, particularly. Attachment is driven by how you feel about yourself with the degree of permanence and safety someone gives you, based on your past relationships.